Many of us suffer from low confidence – sadly it’s a fact of the human condition. A while ago I wrote a post called What to do when you’ve lost your confidence after I was feeling a bit battered and bruised emotionally after a break up. It’s not just romantic break ups that cause a loss of confidence, but job losses, family troubles and even health concerns.
If you find that you are not quite as confident as you would like to be, then there are many things you can do to fix that. In my blog post I mentioned the following things:
- Know your weak spots
- Know your strengths
- Give thanks
- Give compliments
- Accept compliments
- Stick to your principles
As it happens, it is not always a matter of applying a one-solution-fits-all to your problem, for the simple fact that there are many different reasons why people might be suffering from a lack of confidence in their lives. It is generally better to fix the underlying issue rather than trying to look at the surface. That being said, it is possible to remedy a low confidence by attesting to a few things which can be easily fixed. When you suffer from low confidence, help can be found.
When you suffer from low confidence you are not alone
Even though we know deep down that we are more than our “bodies”, often our confidence levels are often deeply tied up with our appearance and the way we look. Dr Fadi Yassmin is a highly experienced dental surgeon in Broadway, and he has stated that many, many people come to him because they are just not confident when they smile, because they don’t like their teeth.
I previously wrote about whether men like women with plastic surgery and the answers were very mixed. Of course, these days it’s not just women that get cosmetic surgery, but men too. According to recent cosmetic surgery statistics, male aesthetic procedures went up 43% over a five year period.
Personally, I do not think that fixing the exterior will make much genuine difference to your confidence levels but it might provide an “easy fix” for a short while. I honestly think that genuine change has to come from within; by truly loving yourself. But if working on a few exterior things such as your teeth, weight or smile seems to help you, then so be it. Remember to accept yourself for who you are, and embrace your body, flaws and all.
Genuine change and acceptance must come from within
Someone recently taught me a new trick. It might sound funny, but it has been shown that standing for two minutes in a so-called Superwoman pose can actually change the way you think about yourself to such a degree that it can boost your confidence permanently.
Here’s how to do it:
- Stand in front of the mirror
- hands on your hips
- feet wide apart
- chin up
- back straight
- ….and smile at yourself.
Even if you feel silly as you do it, know that it does actually help you to feel better about yourself, more than you might suppose. It’s worth a go if you are struggling to really improve your confidence levels, as it is quite a quick fix which actually lasts.
Confidence change from within via mediation
I am a big advocate for meditation. I have practised Vipassana meditation and have done several silent retreats that last 10 days. Read about my experiences here What you can expect at Vipassana meditation courses. I have many posts on mediation on the meditation tab of this blog.
One sure-fire way to keep your confidence and self-worth up is to find some day every day to meditate. Meditation has been shown to improve your life in many ways, but one of the main ones is that you find that you generally think about yourself in more positive ems. This is something that can really help you to be more aware and confident in your daily life. Give it a go today, you will be surprised at how quickly the effects come.
Love yourself by spending time with friends
When you are suffering from low confidence the world can seem like a scary place. But remember, life ebbs and flows and some periods of our lives are just designed to be a little tougher than others. Tomorrow is a new day.
Make sure you have real, quality time with people that love you, even if it’s just a five minute phone call. Reach out to the people in your life that make you feel good about yourself, and stay away from social media which might make you feel isolated and sad, like others are living a better life than you.
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” — Eleanor Roosevelt