How to cope with sadness | It’s OK to feel like cr*p

Yes, I am sad. I am not really sure why. Usually, I can blame external things, often my sadness is fleeting, but every now and then, I feel deeply sad – as if there is something wrong that I cannot put my finger on. Now is one of those times. There is a campaign going […]

7 things men hate about women

Chicks. Frustrating, right? I should know…I am one after all. Women have always confounded and confused men. That’s nothing new. The Boyf is often irritated by me; I do all sorts of things that drive him absolutely bananas. I thought I would do a bit of reaserch online to see exactly what personality traits and […]

I hate myself” – how to stop that thought in 10 steps

There are times when I truly hate myself. That sounds awful, doesn’t it? Some days I feel so heavy and almost crushed by the weight of my own flaws. It’s tricky and soul-destroying although I do not believe in the concept of ‘soul’ as most people do. I really think we’re more complicated than that. […]

Do women complain more than men?

Have you heard that women complain more than men? My life is going past me in a blur. Wake up, go to work, come home, have sex (yay!), go to bed, wake up, go to work…My life is pretty good at the moment and I don’t have anything to complain about. The Boyf insists that […]

The 7 steps to fighting fairly

I love a good argument but I hate to fight. I am a Libran and by nature we are peace lovers, having said that, I have withstood my fair share of fighting and I can be a right-royal pain on the ass sometimes, so I have had my fair share of fights. It’s fine, really. […]

Snooping on people: is it ever ok?

Snooping: Is it ever ok? Do I do it? Not now. Have I done it? Not lately. Someone just did it to me – how do I feel about this? Violated, amused and slightly perturbed. Should I be bothered? Is this activity harmless? Should I get angry, make a fuss or confront the snooper? Times […]

This is What Happens When I Have a Meltdown

So I nearly had a meltdown today. I feel that my threshold for frustration is quite low. In short – I am feeling too busy, drained and really, really tired. But my life is really great, things are awesome. I am just a bit frazzled. There is lots of stuff going on. When I am […]

Map of a Break Up: 40 Things You Can Expect

So it’s been three months. Three long months. But the months have not been lonely –in fact, they have been some of the busiest months of my life. Just over three months ago, my ex partner and I split. I was completely distraught at the time. I was actually physically sick; nauseous and unable to […]

What are the most hurtful insults you can say to someone you love? | Sad woman

How to Deal With Hurtful Insults from Someone You Love

It hurts quite a lot to be insulted by someone you care about. Hurtful insults can feel so unnecessary. I don’t often insult people just to be mean, but if I decide to, I can cut a person down with only a few well-chosen words. The better you know someone, the easier it is to hurt […]

How to Let Go: of People and Things

Letting go: It’s hard isn’t it? As humans we have a tendency to hold onto things, particularly things we think we need. There are those shows on TV now where people hoard things and their houses get filled with layers and layers of junk and clutter until the places are uninhabitable. I always find these […]

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7 Signs that You’re Dating an Asshole

Assholes: They seem to be everywhere. So, how do you know if someone truly, really is an Asshole? Unlike an emotional vampire, you can’t just wave a clove of garlic at them and hope they disappear. Assholes come and go, and if you suspect that you have one in your life, you should get rid […]

My Partner’s Criticisms of Me are Leading to Low Self Esteem (I Think)

Low self-esteem I definitely have it. But what is it anyway? I had to look it up. From Wikipedia: “Self-esteem is a term used in psychology to reflect a person’s overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth.” I guess in my own mind I don’t have a very high value of myself. Why […]

How to Spot an Emotional Vampire in 10 Steps

Emotional vampires: I have one in my life. I have been one. I see them every day. What are the signs that one of your nearest and dearest is sapping the life out of you? If you know an emotional vampire, I am sorry for you. But how can you be sure? Well, I have […]

The One Trick I am Using to Stop My Negative Thoughts from Destroying Me | Put Yourself First

The One Trick I am Using to Stop My Negative Thoughts from Destroying Me

I have this problem. At night when I go to bed, my mind is filled with self-admonishing thoughts: I run though my day and any mistakes I’ve made become amplified, and I fixate on what I might have done differently. My thoughts aren’t just reserved for what I did wrong that particular day, sometimes I […]