Do women complain more than men?
Have you heard that women complain more than men? My life is going past me in a blur. Wake up, go to work, come home, have sex (yay!), go to bed, wake up, go to work…My life is pretty good at the moment and I don’t have anything to complain about. The Boyf insists that I do complain a lot which is fine because it’s a common complaint men have (so, there, ha!)
It turns out that women do not actually complain more than men, they just complain for different reasons. A study from 2006 called Gender and Expressions of Dissatisfaction: A Study of Complaining in Mixed-Gendered Student Work Groups by Joanna Wolfe and Elizabeth Powell states:
“The results indicate that, while the men and women in this sample made equivalent numbers of complaints, they used complaints for different reasons. Women were more likely than men to use complaints as an indirect request for action, while men were more likely to use complaints to excuse behaviour or to make themselves seem superior.”
One blog I read went on to suggest that women get more sympathy when they complain. “Clearly part of the story is that when women complain, others tend to sympathize and take their side, but when men complain, others tend to snicker and think less of them.”
Do women complain more than men, or is this a myth?
If you read the comment threads, many people refer to the fact that women have more to complain about – often citing childbirth as something to complain about. The arguments against this line of questioning come thick and fast, with many people disagreeing that childbirth is something to complain about.
From a guy called Rich: “What I do hate the most about discussions like these is women bringing up the fact that they have to bring up and look after children. Firstly, it is your choice to take this on! Therefore any discomfort or life changes are resultant of this choice you have made.”
Women maligned from Biblical times
Even the Bible says that childbirth sucks. In fact, it was God’s punishment to Eve for eating from the Tree of Knowledge. I happen to love the Book of Genesis, so let’s quote from the King James directly here: “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”
Pretty cool, huh? Don’t worry – man did not escape lightly either. His punishment was that he would now have to work hard to farm the land, whereas before Eden gave Adam everything he needed to survive.
But I don’t complain. It’s a falllacy that women complain more than men
Anyhoo. I don’t think that I complain much at all. Often when I am ‘complaining’ I just think I’m talking. Unless I have a bad lunch experience – then I complain and everyone around me becomes sad and depressed until the order of the universe has been restored by supplying me quickly with something I will enjoy eating.
The Telegraph in the UK recently found that it’s actually men that do more complaining than women: “Women on Twitter talk more about personal matters, television programmes and work, the study found, while men are most likely to tweet about sport, gaming and news. When it comes to tweets related to brands, women are far more likely than men to be entering competitions, while men are much more likely than women to be complaining.”
What do women complain most about?
Yeah – ok, ok. I thought I would write a list of the things I researched women usually complain about.
- Being fat
- The toilet seat
- Her boyfriend
- Having nothing to wear
- Getting hit on
- Uncomfortable shoes
What do men complain about?
- Being called gay
- Periods and PMS (why – they don’t even get them?)
- Chick flicks
- Being sick
Let’s finish off with a quote from someone who was really famous.
See if you can guess the author of this quote:
“I really haven’t had that exciting of a life. There are a lot of things I wish I would have done, instead of just sitting around and complaining about having a boring life. So I pretty much like to make it up. I’d rather tell a story about somebody else.”
It may surprise you to find out that that was said by Nirvana frontman, Kurt Cobain.
Here’s another good one:
“Man alone is born crying, lives complaining, and dies disappointed.” Samuel Johnson
See, Bubby? It’s not just me.