Bad Manners The 7 Worst Mistakes You’re Making

Bad Manners: The 7 Worst Mistakes You’re Making

Bad manners irk me. There is nothing worse than a rotten day being made worse by a philistine pushing past you, or talking loudly and generally making themselves the most important person in the room. Do you have bad manners?

Bad manners can be the difference between having a bad day and a good day, or between having a nice life or a lousy life. That may sound melodramatic – but I believe this to be true.

I have had the most atrocious manners lately. Due to a bit of a personal crisis, for the last month or so I have been an emotional mess. I have been eating poorly, sleeping badly and not looking after myself. This has led me to be in a very bad mood for what seems like an eternity. I have been having trouble even caring for myself, let alone others.

I have been teary, pushy, weepy, grumpy, sad, tearful and selfish. I am the seven dwarfs of rude emotions! I feel sorry for all my family and friends who have (yet again) had to nurse me though a tough time but I feel even sorrier for the strangers on the street who have had to put up with my bad manners lately.

“Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot.” Clarence Thomas

I’m on the mend, so it’s time to rejoin the land of the living and start to respect myself and others more. Here are the seven biggest mistakes I have been making lately. Don’t do as I do. If this is you – hang your head in shame and make the rest of this week a time to display perfect manners.

1. Pushing in front of people

Bad Manners The 7 Worst Mistakes You’re Making queue of people

This indicates that you think your time is more important than other people. This also counts on the road, on pavements, at the supermarket and in lines at the checkout. Letting others go ahead of you makes them feel special and that you are a person who cares. It’s such a little courtesy to extend to someone, and yet in today’s’ culture we are often made to feel that if we don’t trample over others, we’ll never get ahead. This is simply not true. Letting someone go ahead of you is a free way to make yourself feel great. Give it a try. Your heart will glow.

2. Being impatient is bad manners

When things take longer than I expect, I get angry. Sometimes we just have to wait for things to go our way, and sometimes the things we are waiting for never arrive. I am terrible at being patient. I find this very hard to do, but when you are getting impatient, it pays to breathe deeply, relax your shoulders and concentrate on the internal emotions you are feeling inside, and try to let them wash over you like a wave, without reacting to your emotions in a negative way. I know the theory – but jeez I find this hard to do.

3. Talking too loudly

Bad Manners The 7 Worst Mistakes You’re Making be quiet

Yup – this is me all over. I do it on public transport, I do it at cafes. I do it in the office and I can tell it drives people nuts. I have a loud, clear voice that can be heard even when I am not yelling. I need to make more of an effort to respect the space of those in my general vicinity. No one wants to hear everything I have to say, despite the fact that I find myself so interesting.

4. Forgetting to say please and thank you

I am normally OK with this piece of etiquette advice, but every now and then (especially when I am in a bad mood) I forget to say please and thank you. It’s one of the first things we are ever taught as kids. I only ever forget when I am in an extremely bad mood and because of the events of the last month; I have been in a bad mood a lot more often than usual.

5. Talking endlessly about yourself is bad manners

Bad Manners The 7 Worst Mistakes You’re Making narcissism

Again, I have been a culprit lately. Yes, we all need to share sometimes, but there comes a point where we have to say ‘enough is enough’. I like to talk about myself, in fact, we all do. However, it should be the other people in the room that you are trying to get to know. So shut up for once.

6. Not listening to other people

You know the friend whose eyes glaze over whenever the conversation drifts off them? These are the worst types of people to know. One of the most valuable things you can do for people is to buy them expensive jewellery. No! I’m kidding! One of the most valuable things you can do for others is to LISTEN to them! This is more valuable than anything else, don’t you think?

7. Interrupting is also considered bad manners

Bad Manners The 7 Worst Mistakes You’re Making talking too loud

What was that you just said? Oh doesn’t matter – I’m already on to the next thing. I am a terrible interrupter. Sometimes I just can’t seem to wait to get my point across – I just have to interrupt what you are saying to talk over the top of you. This is simply rude and can be avoided – but I find it harder than I think. Like with being patient – I try to breathe deeply and relax my shoulders. Then I try to really concentrate on what the other person is trying to say.

Like I said – I am trying. Or as my ex used to say: “You’re very trying!”

I am going to try to be a bit more polite, a bit more quiet. A bit more helpful, a bit more respectful. I am going to move a little slower and speak a little more quietly. And most of all – I am going to try to love my fellow man more.

“Friends and good manners will carry you where money won’t go.” Margaret Walker

Manners and Customs of ye Englysne

Manners and Customs of ye Englysne / Mr Pips hys Diary [Leather Bound] One of the original books on etiquette. And you can still buy the thing! Here’s a link to Amazon for all old-skool manners enthusiasts.

Please comment: What have you had to deal with in terms of bad manners? What irritates you the most? Have I left anything out?

  1. October 3, 2013

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  2. Ann Little
    March 8, 2014

    My grandchildren and their dad will never say hi to me when entering my car or home. I have to say hi first. My granddaughter and her dad left me at a basketball game to sit closer to the game without saying anything. How do I deal with this

    1. March 10, 2014

      Hi Ann-

      I’m sorry to hear that – it sounds to me that you are feeling that you are being under-appreciated by your family. Have you tried raising it with your granddaughter’s dad? Maybe they just don’t realize how you are feeling. If your feelings are hurt – I would suggest bringing it up with them, but only if your grand kids are adults. If they are kids or teens, I would say that this behaviour is natural and maybe they will grow out of it!

      All the best, and good luck!


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  4. BeastMaster64
    January 14, 2017


    1. January 18, 2017

      Hey Beasty. Thanks for stoppin by.


  5. Susie
    June 16, 2018

    This is so true! Last night I told off my husband for interrupting me. Again! He talks over me, or changes the subject, or just plain interrupts what I’m saying so I can’t finish my sentence, then, because he hasn’t heard all of what I was going to say, he gets half the story and will argue with me over something I was in agreement with, but he’ll never know because he interrupted me! I just stop talking, usually, and refuse to speak on the matter, however last night I blew my fuse and he told me to stop shouting at him. Which I did (manners, right?!) and he agreed that he does it all the time, with everyone. And he realises he’s doing it. But obviously he can’t stop. He needs help. Or I do!

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