Things men do that turn women off: how to flirt effectively
Do you turn women off when you talk to them? Do ladies give you a wide berth? Are you trying to date people but keep striking out? Could it be your technique that’s the problem? Far too often men do things that inadvertently turn women off. Usually these things are easy enough to rectify with a few simple tweaks. Have a look at this list below and see if you’re making any of these mistakes.
Being too leery
Staring at a lady is fine, if you do it in the right way. An appreciative glance is fine, even a second look in some cases, but never look creepy, stare at her boobs or butt or spend overly long checking her up and down.
Being too forward
Play the game. Flirting is a game and should be fun and enjoyed by both parties. Being straight up is fine, so long as you ask questions in a respectable, respectful way. Try to be playful. Don’t simply say, “Do you have a boyfriend?” but say, “I am assuming that someone as lovely and witty as you are would be taken, am I correct?”
Not going through due process
It’s step by step. First, make eye contact. Then wait for her to look back at you. Approach with a simple question, ask directions, the time, advice on where to get a decent coffee. Strike up a conversation if she seems open to it. Then (and only then) venture to ask her out, or see if she’s open to receiving your phone number or business card. Don’t skip the steps.
Expecting too much
Always offer to take a lady out on a proper date – never ask her if she’d like to come over to your house for dinner. It’s far too forward. Dinner does not have to be at a top restaurant but it should be somewhere you have researched and planned ahead. It should not be somewhere you took your ex-girlfriend.
Having poor hygiene
This is one of the most important things. You do not need expensive designer threads or three hundred dollar shoes. Have a clean shirt on (collared is best), clean pants, neat shoes and groom your facial hair. Spend some time to make sure you smell sweet and have clean teeth and nails.
Having poor manners
Be nice! Address her by name, give her genuine compliments, hold open the door, let her out of the elevator first, open her car door, pick her up for the date and listen to her when she talks – that’s the most important and effective thing you can do. Don’t drink too much, swear too much or be rude and obnoxious.
Save sensitive information for later
I once went out with a guy who told me he hated his mother and had previously attempted suicide on the first date! This is out of line. Of course this sort of information can and should come out in a relationship, but not after you know each other better. FYI I gave him a second (and third) chance, but my instincts were right – he was a needy nutcase.
The most important thing to do when trying to connect with a lady is to be your genuine self. Don’t lie, embellish the truth or cheat on your current girlfriend or wife. Be the best you that you ca be and you’ll attract somebody into your life that shares your morals and life goals. Be bold, brave and honest and reap the rewards of an honest connection.
What do you think of my points? Do you agree or disagree? Is there anything I have missed? Tell me in the comments below!