Are Women Aged 30 Still Attractive & Do Men Find Women at 30 Hot?

Are Women Aged 30 Still Attractive & Do Men Find Women at 30 Hot?

It’s the question that we all want to know – at what age do we stop being seen as attractive? Is a woman still attractive at age 30? Are thirty year old women still desirable to others? Thirty used to be seen as the age that you truly become a man or a woman. You leave your childhood behind and you become a “proper grownup”. However, in the last couple of generations, we have seen the “stretching of childhood” and the word “kidults” entering the lexicon.

Some commentators say that people are now enjoying an “extended teenage-hood” which goes from about age 18 – 30 where they still might not be completely independent of their parents, whether by choice or not.

What does this mean for “female beauty”? This article will only talk about women, and how they are viewed by the opposite sex at age 30. Of course, there are many different types of people and relationships and this is just one of them. Remember that people are not “numbers” and “age is just a number”. Your value, or the value of someone you care about has nothing to do with age. Let’s find out why.


Are women at age 30 considered “old”?

What age to women “get old”? The answer is: Later than you think! According to The Telegraph in the UK, women are at their ‘most attractive’ at 30, while men peak at age 34, according to a survey of 2000 people. The data revealed that “women were considered to have reached their peak at 30, but started to show signs of ageing at 41. Women stopped looking “sexy” at 53, and are considered “old” at 55. (I’m not sure if most people would agree with that?)

It seems that the data out there is pretty personalised and not very consistent. There was another study (from Hollywood) that suggested that actresses hit their peak at age 34. “There is still a discrepancy in earning power between men and women in Hollywood. And it becomes doubly unfair when you think of our earning potential in terms of years.  Actresses are like football players. They have a small window of prime earning ability,” according to The Society Pages.

Do men find women at age 30 attractive?

Yes, studies show that they do. There is also a school of thought that says that there is a power shift when people reach age 30 – in favour of men.

Daniel Miessler says, “Many attractive women in their 20s reject all but the most attractive and powerful men. Many of those men go on to become more attractive and powerful in their 30s and 40s.”

He then goes on to explain, “When those women turn 30, they become less marketable and are surprised to learn that the top men don’t want them—because they’re chasing the young women they used to be.” Do you agree with this blogger? It’s a pretty rough assessment if you ask me, but women at 30 might fear this, whether it’s “true” or not.

Are women still sexy at age 30?

Yes, definitely. In my previous post What is the Most Attractive Age For Men and For Women? I found many studies that indicated that women are still very attractive at age 30. At age 30 women are more self-assured and movie website IMDB has helpfully complied a sexy-over-30 list here. Many of these actresses are older than this now, and there’s nothing wrong with that. When you’re asking what age does a woman get old? It pays to think beyond the simple metrics of outer beauty too. Let’s delve into this further.

The best things about 30 year old women

  1. More life experience

By the end of your twenties when most younger men thought they’d be wondering “are women still attractive at 30” everyone comes to realise that 30 isn’t so old after all! Men and women are both still young at that age, really.

Remember back to when you were 22, and in a nightclub (in Australia legal drinking age is 18) and you thought, “I am now 4 years older than all these ‘babies’!” Well, that feeling returns at age 30, when 18 year olds start to look like infants to you.

  1. More experience in the bedroom

So, are women hot at 30? Well, yes, if you look to the bedroom! By age 30 you know what you like and how to ask for it, you will have more confidence in your abilities and you’ve learned a trick or two. Never stop learning, either. What you once thought was dull might be the height of excitement and what once put you off might thrill you down the track. Experiment!

  1. Better listeners

Men who “know” that 30 year old women are attractive are normally the guys who appreciate a great conversation. Younger women can be intelligent, world-wise, sensitive and wonderful, but there is something special that comes with the assurance that only age and experience can bring.

  1. Women aged 30 are less self-absorbed

Women are less self absorbed after a certain stage in life, they might have learned a few hard life lessons and have found out that the world isn’t always the lovely, rosy and easy place we thought it would be in our 20s. By age 30 we have all had many disappointments and many things go wrong in our lives – and that’s what builds character.

  1. More body confident

Women aged 30 will usually be more body confident than younger women. I have written about this phenomenon in my blog post Getting older for women: Which parts of my body will get better with age? Personally I found many things about my body had actually improved – despite the ravages of time. And I’m just a normal Jane, certainly not a glamazon.

  1. More personal assets

Do men find women at age 30 attractive? When you know a women aged 30 you know one thing for sure — “older women” are wealthy in more ways than one. This is especially when compared with women in their teens or twenties. Women aged 30 may have some cash in the bank, some life experience and some work experience – or all three if she’s lucky. This makes a 30 year old woman an ideal dating partner.

  1. A wider support network

Love women but hate how much time and effort they need on the emotional support front? My husband hates it when I talk about my feelings during the cricket – and I don’t even notice I’m interrupting him. It’s a boring game anyway, so I never noticed. But when he shuts down and doesn’t want to talk I have a wider support network to go to – my family, my friends, my colleagues and also, the lovely people I meet online here. I know women aged 30 will have lots to offer.

Do you find women at age 30 still attractive? Are you a 30+ woman yourself who is gorgeous? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!

Are Women Aged 30 Still Attractive & Do Men Find Women at 30 Hot?
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Are Women Aged 30 Still Attractive & Do Men Find Women at 30 Hot?
Are Women aged 30 still attractive? What age does a woman get old, what age does a woman stop being sexy & how do you know if you/she is past her prime?
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  1. iamtanmay
    October 18, 2017

    For f***ing ? Ok. An easy lay is an easy lay.

    For dating, marrying and so on ? Hahahahahhaha.

    I’d rather spend time with the 20-24 year old.

    1. October 20, 2017

      Hi there Iamtanmany-

      Well, as honest as your comment is, I don’t think you’ll be getting too far with that sort of attitude! Not sure how old you are now but time passes quickly and before you know it – even 30 year olds will seem youthful to you. The old adage is true – age is just a number and it’s what’s on the inside that counts!
      Thanks for your comment.

      Love, Alyce

      1. cyp
        March 8, 2019

        what is inside meaning stds sperm from a dozen dudes entitlement emotional baggage. I would say the inside is as ugly as the packaging

        1. April 30, 2019

          Whoa there Cyp. I think you may have some emotional issues to address with a comment like that! Most people in modern society now have multiple partners before settling down, so it’s quite normal.
          Thanks again for your comment!

  2. CuriousGent
    December 24, 2017

    Dear Alyce et al,
    Firstly, thank you for the thoughtful article. Secondly, and to answer, of course women are beautiful and sexy at 30 and beyond. But it’s also best to be realistic about what men with options are generally, although not always, attracted to. Stating that women don’t show signs of aging until 41 isn’t candid. Mid-30s men (and indeed those older) will generally find mid-20s women the most physically attractive. By early 30s, women are still wonderful (and will continue to be), but their age is clearly noticeable and portends the more limited window of fertility. I won’t call this fair or good, but I’ll still call it as I see it. The extended singledom and increased promiscuity of (some) women nowadays mean that most of my mid-30s guy peers who are well educated with successful careers (and have options with women) will often look for mid- to late-20s women to pair with before those ladies spend too much time dating and sleeping with too many men. A double standard, yes. Fair, probably not. But still generally a fact of life driven by human nature, of course.

  3. Laura Canalita
    January 19, 2018

    I spent my 30th birthday July of 2015) in tears. While nursing my new 4 month old daughter, I waited for my (2nd) ex husband to meet me to get our 8 year old son. I had moved us back into my parents house in the beginning of my pregnancy, because her father (who has been MIA most of her life) was mentally and physically abusive and apparently being preggers with his baby made no difference. That’s when I realized the “hitting rock bottom” phrase isn’t just a one time deal in life. So….. my “dirty 30 ” was spent dwelling on the fact that I was single, had my second child by myself- mind you I gained ALOT during my pregnancy cuz I’m an emotional eater and had several scares that my heart may not be able to take giving labor to her (long story- different day!). I was also sooooo close to getting into my RN classes when I conceived, so I was booted out of my biology anatomy class because you CANNOT be around formaldehyde during pregnancy (noted!). So I was stuck . Now, I’m 32, have lost all my baby weight ! But decided I need to finish school, or at least find a lower end job in the medical field for now, get my children and I our own little place, THEN put myself on the market again. However….. I keep thinking that I’m about out of time because I’m not some hot redhead in her 20’s anymore. I don’t consider children to be “baggage”, but some men/women do. So there’s that LoL. I’m extremely picky about who I let around my children, and I have my, now 2 year old, daughter 24/7. So I really wouldn’t even know where to start. I no longer do social media… for like 5 years now (no Facebook, MySpace, Snapchat, etc). I don’t know what kind of attention to expect to get when I’m almost to my mid-thirties, or where we even go to meet ppl now?? Kinda over clubs, not lookin for a hook up. Church maybe?? LoL although it may matter that I’m not at all religious . I believe in God, just not organized religion. I do pray with/for my children and hurting, desperate people, all of the time. Also, I don’t want to trip out so bad, about nobody wanting me anymore bcuz I’m now in my 30’s, that I may turn 40 and be in the same situation because I did absolutely nothing about it….. except worry?

    1. Liv
      March 29, 2018

      You are making this way to involved. There are plenty of women and men who get married or get in a relationship in thier 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s and 80s. My great uncle is 87 and he just got married and his wife is 83. Come on woman, pull yourself together… if you end of “alone” it is because you decided wallow in your pity party instead of being present in your life and your children’s lives… also stop having kids with jack asses, that will do wonders for your mental and emtional health.

      1. April 3, 2018

        Hi Liv,

        Wow – you are a straight-talker! Thanks for your comments. I agree that women (and men) need to empower themselves to find true love and meaningful connections.
        Love, Alyce

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  5. cyp
    March 8, 2019

    Keep telling yourself that. Women and men are different. The most attractive women are the ones that just become legal. Os a 30 years woman attractive? It depends. If you already have 5-10 years together with her yes. If not with minor exceptions the answer is hell no. They are good for pump and dump but is about it. And is biology. Chances to have healthy children as a woman over 30 are slim. Remember boys and girls sexual attractiveness is deeply connected to reproduction. Also why would a man in his right man stay with a woman over 30: she has a lot of high demands, an awful personality and a lot of baggage from past relationships, she has had so much d run through her she is probably not tight in her ass let alone her pussy and who wants to see that wrinkled skin? But hey keep telling yourself that when you are alone with your cats. There is only one truthful thing you said i.e. men starting becoming attractive after 30 and that is because then they start earning real money.

    1. April 30, 2019

      Hi Cyp,
      Do you *really* think that “Chances to have healthy children as a woman over 30 are slim”? I would do a bit more research if I were you! Where I live (in Australia) the percentage of women having their first child over the age of 30 years has risen from 23% in 1991 to 43% in 2011. I think you’ll find that the stats are similar in many Western countries. In short – millions of healthy babies are born to women over 30 every year!
      All the best,

      1. Lauren
        June 29, 2019

        The misogyny in Cyp’s response is disgusting. And it’s disturbing how he only finds women who are only just legal to be the only desirable ones. This was an excellent article. Thank you!

        1. July 5, 2019

          Thanks so much for your comment, Lauren! Yes, we get all types with these sort of topics!
          Love, Alyce

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  7. John
    June 12, 2019

    Most women are not nearly as attractive to men at 30 as they are at 20. It is just how men are hardwired. Appearances make up about 85% of what men are attracted to, specifically the appearance of youth and beauty. The remaining 15% is having feminine personality traits.

    It is interesting all the reasons men SHOULD be attracted to 30 year olds are a projection of traits that women find attractive in men (maturity, sexual experience, financial security, confidence, conversational charisma, etc) and assume men find those same traits to be attractive. They don’t. In fact most of those traits in women are extremely unattractive. Men prefer young women that they can provide for, protect, teach, and lead. A woman being sexually experienced is a huge turnoff for men, especially for men looking for a relationship. So is financial security, independence, maturity, and confidence.

    We don’t want women to be like men. That’s the whole point. Men like women who are meek and modest. The exact opposite of what women want.

    1. July 5, 2019

      Hi John,

      That’s an interesting take on things! I think there is now a real movement of younger men who want to date older women. I think there has definitely been a cultural and generational shift in the last 20 years or so.
      Thanks for taking the time to comment.

  8. Molly
    August 7, 2019

    Thoughtful article. Wow the comments on this page. I am happy to say these men who need young inexperienced partners who have no other purpose of existing other than stroking an older mans ego ARE THE MINORITY.

    Many grown adult men DO value things like intelligence, compassion, independence. I have met some and am currently married to one!

    — This is because they are secure with themselves and do not need to falsely inflate their tender sensitive egos with underlings.

    Ladies, trust. Only men hunched over commenting on female blogs take this stance.. real men will be fine with you being a normal human and did not magically defy the laws of physics and time.

    1. August 28, 2019

      Hi Molly,

      Well your lovely and thoughtful comment made me smile! I totally agree with you, there are many emotionally intelligent men out there who cherish and adore their partners.
      Love, Alyce

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