Do you get more respect at work than at home? How to respect your man

God I love where I work. I like the actual work I do, and I love the company but what I really, really love is the team I work in. Every day I look forward to going to work, where I am involved in interesting projects, with creative, engaging people, and together, we feel that we are building something significant to be proud of.

But I don’t get this feeling at home so much.

Nor do I give my partner the same respect as I give my colleagues, I think. At work, I make decisions, some of them rather important, and I get respect and occasional recognition.

In the home, The Boyf and I will argue about whether to have the fan on or off and how long you should cook pasta for. We’re like a couple of toddlers – sulking when we don’t get our way (OK, it might be me sulking the most).

I think the problem is respect. Reading a few blog posts on respect, I can see that, perhaps, I am a wee bit lacking in the “showing I respect a person” stakes. The problem is I think I am right all the time, and if you read this blog regularly – you will know that’s true!

So, how do you show respect to a man? Erm – I wasn’t sure, so I decided to consult some experts. “When a man feels respected by his mate, it actually makes him want to become a better person,” says Advanced Life Skills. “Your approval is a powerful motivator.”

The five respect needs of men (from imom.com)

1. Respect his judgment
2. Respect his abilities
3. Respect in communication
4. Respect in public
5. Respect in our assumptions

I quite like this tip too “Share your feelings with him but keep it abbreviated.”

Does The Boyf respect me?

Well, I can say that he does. He provides me with more respect than I have known in a relationship. I still occasionally reel back when I realise that he actually cares. He cares about how I feel, whether I am happy and safe and about my life and my achievements in general. And I care about those things for him, as well.

“When people do not respect us we are sharply offended; yet in his private heart no man much respects himself.” – Mark Twain